Finishing Strong

As you all know I am a great football fanatic, Arsenal supporter if I must say 😅 (Kindly don’t give up on the FOURTH line of this piece 🙏🏽)

Every football fan watches a match with the expectation and desire that the team they support emerges victorious. Of course, at the beginning, everyone might be calm but anxiety builds up as the 90 minutes start elapsing. This is because everyone has hopes that his star player will do the impossible and secure a win. The same happens when you are cheering on that athlete on the track and want him/her to win that gold medal.
Better off, ask anyone who is involved in betting and find out how important every minute is for them. Every single minute including the very last one.

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Every football fan remembers Sergio Aguero’s 2011/12 last minute title-winning goal for Manchester City.

We are in the second last month of the year! We all know of good things that come during the eleventh hour. Put yourself in the shoes of the star player who you depend on to win the game. YOU are the star player in your game of life. With God, your family, friends and all those who look up to you as your fans, and YOU! Because you are your biggest fan. You wouldn’t want to disappoint any of them, would you? They have all invested in you in terms of resources; opportunities, strength, support and even time to watch you succeed. Would you really want to let them down?

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Hail the all-time 100M Champion, Usain Bolt 🙌🏽👑

Reflect back on all the plans you had made for the year. Evaluate what you have achieved and what is pending. Put what is left in God’s hands, remember He is one of your fans. Quickly set up your plan to achieve them. Start tackling them one by one without giving up or wearing out. You have the resources, you have the gift of time and above all you have yourself.

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Remember when your star player scored the winning goal at the last minute or when that athlete passed his/her opponents just a few metres from the finish line? Remember the amount of celebration that happened afterwards? May that be your amount of celebration on 31st December, and not just because you are crossing over to another year, but also because you have fought the fight and successfully finished the race, ready for new challenges that 2018 will bring.

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2nd Timothy 4:7

Now share this encouragement with someone today and don’t waste any time – START WORKING.





We’re seated at my workplace’s Boardroom with the whole team present for some midweek motivation. My boss catches me off guard and asks me, “What is your 5-year plan? Where do you want to see yourself in five years?” I froze. It’s like all the elements in my brain began running to every corner of my mind flipping through the books of memories trying to find the answer to that question. I could only manage one simple answer “I just want to make sure that my Mum has a comfortable life.”  (This is actually true by the way. She is my biggest motivation.)

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I know. No smart answers of how I want to have a company and family and children blah… None of that. And it left me thinking, “Where is it written that I must have my next 5 years figured out? What if I honestly don’t know? Does this make me less motivated than the rest? ” That evening I did a lot of soul searching because that moment just made me realize that unlike everyone else, I don’t have these fancy, blow away 5 years plan, and I’m just walking as far as the light has allowed me to see. I can’t see the whole staircase but I’m still climbing and faithing my way to the top.

“Lord, if I need that 5-year picture plan, please reveal it to me before someone else asks me that question in your own time.”

But somewhere along the way, after that incident, I realize this.

For me, I just never want to be at a point in my life where I put survival first. I never want this to be the story of my life.

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I wake up in the morning. I want to just go back to sleep. I kick off the duvet and get ready for the day because “Dress up and show up even when you don’t feel like it, right?” It’s 9 am and the only thing motivating me to get things done is that with every passing second, I’m a minute closer to 5 pm. Then I get back home to my comforting bed, and sleep, hoping that tomorrow will be another day that I manage to survive through only to wake up to the same dreary routine.

Staying in a job I didn’t want to do.

Take 4 years to study a course that I won’t even major on (again)

Be in a relationship that doesn’t help me grow simply because I’m afraid of being alone.

Living to survive.

Living up to society’s expectations.

WhatsApp Image 2017-08-03 at 02.54.34I never want any of that. So I remind myself every other day that the greatest weapon against fear is faith. The greatest weapon against doubt is moving forward.

So, when life is shoving you in the direction of the unknown, dare to trust it. So often you’ll just know when you’re in the wrong place, when you’ve outgrown it, and when it’s time to move on. The fear of stepping into something unfamiliar often holds us back.

What if I close one door and the other got stuck?

pexels-photo-277017.pngWell, someday the pain and frustration of staying in one place are going to become too much to bear and you’ll be forced to move forward without caring about what happens next. So why not save yourself all the drama and confusion and just take the next step?I’m learning to put my happiness, my sanity, my peace of mind and my purpose first; often reminding myself that the worst-case scenario I’m imagining may not be so bad. In fact, it might be quite good.

As I slowly embrace this, everything else manages to fall in its place. I leave from one place and another opportunity reveals itself, some friendships fade away, others grow and others morph into lifetime commitments.

Be the best at being you. Take a step back, pray, do some self-searching, open your eyes and live YOUR life. Not your friend’s, not your employer’s, not your parent’s, not society’s. But YOURS.




Comparison Trap

Nash: You guy, do know you are so deep?

Me: Hahaha really? Than you?

Nash: COMPARISON TRAP!!! (She blasted me)

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She made me think of the number of times I overlooked my success, busy comparing myself to others. Comparing my possessions, my grades, my job, my friends, my body… the list is endless.

I’m sure most (if not all) of us have this weakness. We compare ourselves to people who aren’t even aware of our very existence. It may look like a small thing, but we need to take a step back and keenly evaluate this and reconsider our thoughts. Nash and I learnt a lot from this so called ‘Comparison Trap’.

Comparison is your greatest enemy. As the title says, it is an actual ‘TRAP’. It becomes a limiting factor, because our energy is shifted from self-growth.

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Let’s try and count the number of times you have watched your friends, colleagues and those around you receive their breakthrough, while you are stuck in the same place asking “What about me?”  It worries most of us when our progress is slower than others. We become uneasy and impatient. We want to run ahead and  catch up with the rest. Right?

The sad truth is that this often forces us to follow paths that are not meant for us. You find yourself doing or practicing things that aren’t meant for you. What then happens to your purpose? Who will take over from your unachieved goals? How far will you have walked, before you realize that you are on the wrong path?  Will it be too late?

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Comparison will steal your joy. It will rob you dry and leave you empty, because you’ll never be content. You will always want more. It’s time you realize that – There will always be someone ahead of you. There will always be someone better than you. They’ll always be someone driving a car that is better than yours. Thanks to creativity, they’ll always be a newer version of what you have in your possession. With this said, if you spend your time, money and energy comparing, then you will never experience the joy of enjoying what you have at hand.

Know what you want.

Boss up to achieve it.

Make the best out of it.

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Whether it’s a lot. Whether it’s a little.  A bird at hand is worth two in the bush. What you have at hand is more important that what you want. What you have will only be as important as what you decide to do with it.

Comparison is an issue of the heart. It is an enemy of love. It makes us jealous. We begin to harbour ill feeling. These feelings take up space in our minds and hearts, and slowly but swiftly; begin to command our actions. You don’t need to physically harm anyone to prove that you are jealous. The minute you begin delighting in someone’s misfortune, is the very minute you need to sit and evaluate your intentions. Think of the number of times you have rejoiced because of someone else’s downfall. We’ve all heard the story of David and Uriah. Cain killed his blood brother. And it was all a matter of jealousy. I’m guilty of this as well! Aren’t we all?


Comparison will interfere with your self esteem. It will either make you hate your very existence, or it will make you proud.

So, what is our solution?


All this will change through gratitude alone. Thanking God for the blessings He has already given you. This shifts our focus from always wanting what others have, to appreciating what we have and what He is yet to bring. Celebrating what God has given others and leveraging what God has given you is the antidote to insecurity and envy. It reduces the urge to compare oneself with another.

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“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” Romans 12:10

God has different purposes for each of us so if your friend/enemy/competitor is called forth, you shouldn’t be sad, desperate or uneasy because God has His own good works for EACH AND EVERYONE of us. Trust this, and trust His timing on the same!


Lord help me to trust your timing. Help me to believe that I am where you want me to be. I don’t need to compare my life and journey to any other person’s. Forgive me for defining my successes using other people’s timelines and achievements. Help me to keep my eyes fixed on you and what you have planned for me.

In Jesus name,


After Valentine’s Day Type of Love

The month of February is one that is set aside for lovers. The first half of the month is spent by lovers trying to prepare for the famed Valentine’s day and the other half is spent either apologizing to significant others for failing to reach expectations or basking in the afterglow of a perfect celebration of love. It doesn’t matter whether you are single or not, ultimately you will be made aware of the fact that love is indeed in the air.

From exclusive getaways in popular destinations or hotels, to boxes of jewelry and chocolates everyone tries to go out of their way to show their significant other that theirs is indeed the truest and purest form of love. It doesn’t matter who you are, even that handy man in the village will probably be inclined to make that “mama mboga” he has being eyeing feel special by any means he can. So flowers will be bought and luxurious experiences sought after all in the name of celebrating love. I have nothing against this; everyone reserves the right to celebrate their love whichever way they wish. My only prayer for you is that yours is an after Valentine’s Day kind of love.

What do I mean? I mean that after the special suits and spectacular dresses and heels have come off; After the expensive watches and rings and other gifts have began gathering dust on shelves; After the flowers have all dried up and the bags from the getaways have been unpacked; After the month of February is long gone and all that is left of it are memories; I pray that yours is a strong and all year round type of love. That the love you celebrate in February is still going strong in March all the way through to December. That regardless of the date your love will be forever evident and celebrated not always in grand gestures but even in small gestures that are capable of getting you through the tough times. That your love goes beyond the pressures imposed by society to showcase a perfect love. That even during the most boring and mundane days to the most exciting and thrilling days you and your significant other will nurture and grow a love that can withstand and sustain both seasons.

We are all witnesses to how under rated, mediocre and bland the word Love is today. The most powerful verb, and still the most misused one. Such a beautiful thing, being the reason for so many ugly things happening around us today. For something that people search for day in and day out, it’s funny how scarce such an amazing thing is, in a world that desperately needs it. Let’s take time to realize what ‘love’ genuinely is, and be the first to show it to everyone we encounter.

Yes it is a lot of work but it can be done with dedication and commitment. So here’s to an after Valentine’s Day type of love! May we be lucky enough to find it and may we be strong enough to nurture it!